Carving a Path for Yourself

It seems that through many conversations and experiences I’ve had with others sharing their journeys, there are so many of us that are carving our own way. We see the affects of people following what they thought was happiness, but realized they were working towards someone else’s dream. We will finally come to a place of accomplishment and satisfaction when we retire… we just need to work 40 hours or more a week to get there. We find ourselves in the system of working to live, rather than living to work our own passions or dreams. It seems we can never catch a break because we’re always working towards different monetary goals. We work to get money to pay for a vacation to enjoy our lives… Isn’t that a bit backwards? Shouldn’t we be adjusting our lives to actually live in our passions and do what we love?

But we’ve been told that doing what we love doesn’t make us money. We need money to be secure in providing for our bills, our homes, and our families. We’ve started to believe that this is just the way life is and that we need to find something we can at least tolerate to gain income. We’ve started to value monetary gains over our livelihood. We’ve allowed self-doubt and fear sink in and control our lives, not believing that we can actually work towards something that we love to fulfill us.

In our traditional approach to life, we are conditioned to believe there’s only one way to be deemed as “successful.” In our educational system, we aren’t able to have any creative or reflective thought of the lives we envision ourselves living. Our traditional approach is to go to school from preschool to high school, immediately jumping into a 4-year university, where we are told to pick a focus that we will pursue for the rest of our lives. From my experience, many people end up dropping out, switching majors countless numbers of times, or graduating with a major that they are not necessarily passionate about, but have been told that it will allow them to achieve the “all American dream.”

I’ve had a few people see where I’m at in my journey and seem really confused. I’m in a position where I’m storing all my belongings in my car, mainly living in my two person tent, not having a place to call “home,” and not having a steady source of income. In our society, this is viewed as someone who is truly struggling in their life and are need of some serious assistance. But the truth of it is, I put myself in this position on purpose.

I worked a job that I loved to serve. I had a home that I shared with a few incredible individuals, which was surrounded by a food forest that we all were part of. But at the end of the day, I didn’t feel satisfied. I didn’t feel that I was able to truly live to my fullest potential. I found myself searching for more knowledge, more experiences, and I didn’t feel that staying in my current situation was able to provide that outcome. I decided to break out of the shell of the things I found provided me security and comfort and although it was a bit terrifying, it was the best decision I had ever made.

Now every day I wake up and feel so alive. I feel connected to my mission, my vision, and my community. I spend my time working at a permaculture farm within an interfaith ashram, learning everything I’ve envisioned and more, connecting to others who are carving paths for themselves, eating from the gardens and organic vegetarian Swami blessed meals, living a simple life in my tent, living in an off-grid eco-village, going sailing and exploring islands on days off, sitting around the campfire for goddess gatherings, attending kirtans, doing yoga, diving into meditation daily, living close to Earth… and the list continues!

Yes, I may not be making money or following the traditional lifestyle, but I feel incredibly rich. I may not be pursuing a Masters degree, but every day I learn more than I could by taking that route. I also want to clarify, I don’t say this in any means to make anyone feel bad about where they are or compare your life to where I’m at… I say this in a way to encourage you and to show you that there is indeed another way! You just need to fully believe in yourself and know that you are not alone on this journey.

I want to share with you inspirations on how you can maintain the vision you’ve been seeking and start fully embodying your own journey. These aspects are only what I’ve experienced that have helped me along the way, but I’m sure there are so many other ways that can help you pursue your own journey. I’d also love for others to share what has helped them along their way to cultivate the path they want for themselves.

~ Self-reflection & meditation

This is a huge one for me. Providing time for ourselves to reflect on where we are at in our life, where we envision ourselves being, and incorporating those dreams into realities. What do we feel is our calling? What do we want to pursue from the space of our heart? What makes us feel whole? Beyond self-reflection comes the power of meditation. Creating a practice where we can tune into our breath and come into contact with our highest version of ourselves. With the practice of meditation, we are able to tune into ourselves and tune out of our social conditionings of who we feel we are “supposed” to be. We create a container to reconnect with our highest visions. Making this a daily practice is definitely huge in maintaining your vision and manifesting the life you want for yourself.

~ Living in community and cultivating healthy relationships

Living in community gives you the opportunity to meet yourself honestly. I believe that by living in community, you’re able to confront some unhealthy patterns. In my experience of living in community, it brought out aspects of myself that I wouldn’t have realized needed to be examined without being surrounded by others. If we live lives of isolation, we are alone in our ways of being. We may think our way is the right and only way. Luckily, I was living with really loving and reflective people, so it created a space where I could continuously work on myself. This also creates a space for others to do the same. It’s important to come from a space of understanding, compassion, and non-judgment… because we are all on this human journey together.

I find cultivating healthy relationships and allowing your vibe to attract your tribe is incredibly important. Surrounding yourself with people who believe in you and want to lift you up into your visions. People who want to see the best in you and inspire you to be the best version of yourself. People who make you feel warm, loved, and just straight up great about yourself! I truly don’t know where I would be in my life without the support of my community.

~ Connecting to Nature

My philosophy is that many of the issues we face today stem from our disconnection to Nature. Connecting back to the natural world has so many benefits that I don’t even know where to begin! (also, keep your eyes open for a future post about this). But in regards to creating the life we envision for ourselves, being connected to Nature allows us to disconnect from the stories that we are continuously told and tell ourselves. It allows a space to just simply be. We are constantly in a state of doing and just being allows a space for the creative juices to flow. We are able to remember that we are part of this ecosystem, not separate. It also connects us back to our true Nature, where we realize that life is simple. It’s as complex and as simple as our bodies are made out of the same atoms that exist within the stars. In knowing this simplicity, we can redesign our lives to be rich and full, letting go of the excess of what isn’t serving us.

~ Living fearlessly and letting go

In carving a path for ourselves, we are faced with following a path of our own. We are choosing a path where we are listening to what’s best for us and not what we’ve been conditioned to believe. Choosing a lifestyle that doesn’t necessarily fall under the “traditional” category can be pretty terrifying, especially if you don’t have people around you to help support your decisions. You may have your family pushing their expectations on you or friends not entirely understanding your approach of following your intuition. I also want to clarify that my intentions are not to put down a “traditional” path, but to lift you up to pursuing what you love. If you find yourself wanting to pursue something that is viewed in the “traditional” sense, do it! As long as you are actually doing it out of your heart because you want to, not because you feel pressure from society to be someone you aren’t. As one of my mentors told me, “Walk your own path or someone else will.”

I think it’s important to remember that each day we live could be our last and we only have this one human life to live, so we should make the best of it by cultivating a life that we enjoy waking up to live every day. We need to release the fears and limiting beliefs that are holding us back from creating a space to carve the path we truly want for ourselves. By holding onto the fear and expectations, it’s keeping us further away from stepping into the unknown of a more abundant and aligned life we can live.

Take time in your life to reflect, explore, and go into the depths of what you find to be your niche or calling. What do you want to do? What’s holding you back from pursuing that? Believe in yourself. If someone else could do it, why can’t you? We need to feel empowered to listen to our own intuition of what we feel we want to do. There’s no wrong way. Any decision or step you take allows you to open new doors and gets you closer to your goal. You are supported and everything will eventually fall into place. You’re already there, as it’s already unfolding for you. By diving into the depths of your passions and the way you envision your life to be, you can create that fertile soil to allow the seeds you’ve planted to flourish into abundant fruit trees.

Always remember that we are all on this journey together and here to support one another.

With so much love,

Mandalynn


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